Becoming: The New Rhythm

Becoming Series: A Note from one SisterFriend to Another

This week’s reflection closes our Becoming conversation—for the in-between seasons, when you’re changing, and you don’t quite recognize yourself yet. Growth isn’t linear, and you don’t have to do it alone. Each reflection is an invitation to take one small step right where you are.

These reflections are written especially with Black, Brown, and Indigenous women in mind—women who carry so much, love so deeply, and are often asked to be strong before they are allowed to be human. I hope that as you read, you feel seen and reminded that you are worthy of care, not because you’ve earned it, but because you exist.

Settle in with your journal, take a breath, and move through each post at your own pace. May you bring every version of you forward with grace, and trust the process as you keep showing up for yourself.

SisterFriend Reflection: Your new rhythm deserves your attention.

After you admit, right where you are is where you need to be, and after you keep what fits, there’s one more part that doesn’t get talked about enough: You have to learn a new rhythm. Because change isn’t just a decision, it’s a pattern. And patterns don’t hold on their own, especially when life gets busy again. What I noticed in my own transition is this: I could have a productive week, a joyful week, a reflective week…and then something would happen, an obligation, a request, a wave of tiredness, and I’d feel myself drifting back to what was familiar. Not because I wanted to go back. Because old rhythms are easy to fall into.

But becoming has a sound to it. A pace to it. A way of living that fits who you are now. And you don’t have to perfect it. You have to practice it. A new rhythm might mean:

• You don’t answer everything right away

• You protect your mornings a little more

• You stop over-explaining (Ouch!)

• You build in space before you say yes.

• You choose rest, like it matters

• You do less, with more intention.

The goal isn’t to become a whole new person. The goal is to live like you believe what you already know: not everything fits anymore, and you’re allowed to move differently now. It’s not a fake-it-to-you-make-it philosophy. It’s a deep knowing that you are on your way home! Home to your center of being. And getting there excites you! I am excited for you!

Purpose Meets Strategy (Take 10 minutes)

• Name your old rhythm (one sentence): “My old rhythm was______.”

• Name what you want now (one sentence): “My new rhythm needs more_____.”

• Choose one rhythm rule for the week. Pick one:

  • I will pause before I say yes.

  • I will protect one quiet morning or evening.

  • I will take a walk with no agenda.

  • I will respond when I’m ready, not when I feel pressured.

  • I will stop doing one thing that drains me.

Write it down where you can see it. Write it down to remind yourself of your commitment.

May you carry your wisdom forward without pressure. May you give yourself room to grow.