Becoming: Keep What Fits
Becoming Series: A Note from one SisterFriend to Another
This week’s reflection continues our Becoming conversation—for the in-between seasons, when you’re changing, and you don’t quite recognize yourself yet. Growth isn’t linear, and you don’t have to do it alone. Each reflection is an invitation to take one small step right where you are.
These reflections are written especially with Black, Brown, and Indigenous women in mind—women who carry so much, love so deeply, and are often asked to be strong before they are allowed to be human. I hope that as you read, you feel seen and reminded that you are worthy of care, not because you’ve earned it, but because you exist.
Settle in with your journal, take a breath, and move through each post at your own pace. May you bring every version of you forward with grace, and trust the process as you keep showing up for yourself.
SisterFriend Reflection: Keep what fits. Release what doesn’t.
If you’ve been saying, I am chaning, you may also be realizing something else: Not everything fits anymore. And that does’t mean you’re doing life wrong. It means you’re in a new season—and your life is yearning for something different.
One of the hardest parts of a transition is realizing you can’t carry everything into what’s next. Not because your past didn’t matter. It did matter. Not because you're forgetting who you’ve been. Memories and experences have a way of hanging around. But because every season hast its own way of being-and you get to decide what belongs with you now. That’s your Superpower. You get to decide who you want to be now.
When I think about retirement, I’m grateful for how it forced me to ask better questions. Not “What should I do next?” But “What kind of life do I want now?” Not “How do I stay useful?” But “How do I stay whole?”
That’s what becoming is. It’s learning how to move forward without dragging old pressures into a new season. Michelle Obama calls this the “swerve.” It’s an opportunity to reimagine what your life looks like in the context of change. Some things still fit. Keep what fits.
Some things still support you. Keep them. Some things cost too much. Release them. Some things are calling you forward. Make room for them. And if you feel unsure, that’s normal. New seasons can make all of us feel like a beginner again—even when we have lived a whole life of experience. Lean into beginning again. You’ll be surprised by what happens when you do!
Purpose Meets Strategy (Take 10 minutes)
Write three headings:
KEEP/RELEASE/CREATE
Keep: what still supports me in this season?
Release: what drains me or no longer fits?
Create: what do I want more of now?
Cirlce one item and take one small action this week.
May you carry your wisdom forward without pressure. May you give yourself room to grow.
